In the meantime, caught in the swirling energies of the cultural
flood, each member of the 'great change' as individual was subject to an
emotional and psychic pounding. Many understood they were being use as
instruments for the transformation, of not only of their own society, but
of humanity and of sentient existence as well.
Taking refuge in a particular religion or philosophy, was a matter
of life and death to many, a matter of sanity or insanity to others. Some
became embedded in a particular myth or symbol or unconscious identity
with a god or archetype and as happens in every time of radical cultural
transformation, some were destroyed. There was a cost, of course, which
there is in any revolution. On this necessary sacrifice the merchant media
jumped, as proof of the uselessness of the process, as the press does on
every manifestation of social and cultural revolution. The advertisers are
not advocates of change.
One of the major conflicts, which amounted to a small scale war,
was dealing with the materialist feminine absolute, that powerful force,
Mother of civilization. The Hindus picture this force as a great black
female Goddess eating Her male devotees, Her mouth and body awash in their
blood; with Her six arms She offers a balance of goodies and various tools
of torture and destruction. She dances on the body of the god Shiva in
some representations, the Lord of the Universe. She is the embodiment of
the material universe. In contemporary terms She is civilization itself.
As in Diego Rivera’s mural in the Ford plant in Detroit, she is the
upper middle-class matron, symbol of the highly feminized North American
society; nurturer, emasculator and Mother of us all.
Any individual, male or female wishing to reach the deep
mainsprings of their own integrated Self, must tangle with this vision of
the mother-reality. Not surprising, it seems harder for the female to
question the female absolute of her own culture than for the male,
although the male is traditionally castrated in his early years, not only
by his mother but by the educational and the religious institutions of
Much of the male violence in the United States comes as a reaction
againest the moral absolutes of feminine domination of class mores. The
precepts of success, of security, of ‘penal’ punishment, of the way
education is organized, around the concepts of comfort, cleanliness
(sterility), of art as decorative entertainment, education as compliance,
science at the service of utility and protection againest unknown enemies.
The accumulation of wealth and accent on security, derive out of
influence of the feminine in historical society. Modern civilization is
developed around the desires of the merchant feminine, out of trade
in spices, ornamental cloth, fresh and varied food for the family, cooking
materials and tools, exploitation of the male for the construction
and defense of the home and hearth, castration of the male in the
possessive games of creating societies and nations, urging
males to vie with one another, to learn the rules of possession
(psychotic love and attachment) an archetypal feminine game, not to be
underestimated, to be respected - for sure - at the same time to be aware
of. Through the Image of Kali
birth and death is in the hands of the feminine. An individual,
male or female, risk pain and terror reaching for their innate
individuality , as Ramakrishna put it," lopping off the head of the
The violence in the entertainment medium, in crime and war, come as
much from reaction againest the feminine domination of the mores of the
society, as exploitation
of barbaric and 'prurient' instincts of the male. The feminine and
masculine are very much at war in present day society, as they have been
in the birth
and generation of the species. It is the struggle that gives such amazing
vitality to the species, as can be seen in the struggle between Judeo
(feminine) Christianity and the Moslem (masculine) tradition, each
centering on different concepts of the role of the female in the social
spiritual order of the tribe.
The difficulty of the black kid in school comes as much from having
to endure too much of the feminine (the females at home, the lash of the
female teacher, school administrator, winding up probably under a female
judge and social worker) as a reluctance to learn the strange language and
mores of the white ruling class. The kid's old man probably left home in
the first place because of the constant nagging of the females, who, once
ensconced in a place, dominates the atmosphere, and who, in most cases, as
soon as the first male child is born, would just as soon the old man left
In the white middle class, the situation is not too much different.
After a couple of years of marriage and the birth of children - sons
hopefully - the male parent is gradually eased out, if not actually from
the home, given no place in the house, allowed a minor role in the family,
despised often by his own children.
Finding no place in his own house the father will gravitate to the
club or barroom, finding no place in her bed, the damn fool will look
about for another relationship, or a brief affair, ending up with the wife
taking the house and car and most of the money in the joint account, and
further forced to pay alimony.
The town of Mill Valley, in Northern California, as just one
example, just north of San Francisco, become famous as a coven for women
with property and growing sons. Having gotten rid of the old man, taking
his property, children and money, the middle aged women live in a kind of
neurotic comfort. Driving Saab station wagons and BMWs, they beat a path
from coffee klatch to feminist seminar, exulting in rabid male bashing
white women, their life-styles models which reflect the highest
state the industrialized American female can hope to reach, representing
the image of a feminist Valhalla. The suicide rate and dope use among the
Mill Valley youth is exceptionally high. The male youths tend to be rather
uncommon among the American middle class. One of the youths
recently in desperation joined the al Qaeda in Afghanistan, was dragged
back and awaits secret trial by the American military at God Knows where
[poor kid, he was sentenced to 20 to life]
The educated American middle-class female, socially in a position
of power, for all her brilliance of intellect and instincts, has
difficulty perceiving the implications of her actions. For every time a
male is bashed with hilarity in the coffee klatches, somewhere a wife is
battered, a whore is abused, a woman walking alone or in her apartment is
raped and beaten. Nature and society gives the female subtle power to
protect herself and her brood, but many women push it too far, push a
man's buttons beyond the point he can stand with any dignity. If he
accepts the dominance of the female, and becomes pussy whipped, not only
does he carry the resentment deep within himself, but the whole of the
male gender adds
to the bank of grievance againest the female.
After the Mi Lai massacres in the Vietnam war, a congressional
committee was organized to study the patterns of atrocities committed by
American soldiers againest the North Vietnamese women. The hearing was
broadcast and many were horrified to hear of the wanton cruelty of young
American men againest
women, suspected of spying.
Many of these young men were white Southern boys, brought up in an
atmosphere where the female is dominant; the cruelty and violence againest
the Vietnam women was to some extant a way of reacting againest the
constant attack on their manhood by the
females in their home ground.
In the twentieth century the southern woman tended to be a powerful
crone. Supported by the fundamentalist church and
traditional of matriarchy, the southern male, from the time of his
infancy, was the victim of emotional emasculation, common in the American
middle class but more virulent in the authoritarian South.
Religious-authoritarianism and matriarchy
too often go hand in hand. Regular and
Military police welcomed the good ol' southern boy who harboring
fear of authority instilled by the feminine,
expressed in cruelty
But this is not a diatribe againest the female, God bless her. She
is used badly. Consumer society built around
female addiction to things and an insane desire for cleanliness, is
the target of the merchandiser. They woo the female through adds and TV
sitcoms to buy useless things and gadgets upon which the economic
structure depends, to send her sons off to be killed in merchant wars, to
castigate her daughters who stray from the norm and challenge
in an industrial society is in most cases a subtle form of prostitution,
the ritual of marriage an economic affair, both the male and female used
by the merchandiser.
In the last few years the number of TV shows showing the man as a
bewildered ass, and the woman as the source of all wisdom has skyrocketed.
Male bashing has become an ingrained institution in the media. Its
antithesis manifests in forms of violence againest women and children, a
constant subject of
murder and police shows with a liberal dash of guilt thrown in.
Tough detectives are shown bending under the superior influence of
indignant female officers, judges and social workers. Details of the
murder of women and children a daily fare in the tube.
Although the use of the stock media family (the wise mamma, the
stupid dad, the smart-ass kids) has always been with us, looking back to
early days of TV family sitcom (Leave it to Beaver etc.), old dad of the
early shows had a more benign role. Suddenly in the eighties, the scene
changed, dad is either out all together or a bit of a fool.
In one show papa has to dress like a woman to back into the family.
and guilt inspiring has become an industry. Some of the sitcoms
today are so embarrassingly emasculating, the male has tuned out
by the millions. No wonder he follows the sports.
The effect on male children in a fatherless middle class society is
sad. The Boy needs a male againest whom to try out and develop his
maleness. The rate of child drug addiction, alcoholism and suicide in
places like the Mill Valley community is horrendous. the incidents of male
children running amok has grown exponentially in the last ten years.
Without some kind of male authority at the head, the boy can only turn to
the group of boys his own age, all of them haunted by the same inordinate
dictates of the female few of whom have the slightest idea of the needs of
a young male. The young male, without a male direction in his life,
becomes feminized and takes out his resentment by cruelty to others, joins
restless confused gangs with no place go, dressing in pathetic costumes,
challenging the social norms, or, if bent to the will of the
female absolute, becomes an indignant moralist reacting with female
hysteria to crime
and punishment, a fit recruit
for armies and law enforcement agencies.
Behind every authoritarian figure stands a ball-breaking female.
The nun-educators of the Irish Catholic schools produced perfect models of
policemen, trained to respect feminine authority like a god, or in
rebellion againest the autocratic female, enlisted in the
Enforcement officers, for all their machismo, are for the most
part, under the dominance of a strong mother or wife, carrying out the
demands and mores of the feminine materialist absolute, burning with
resentment within, which they take out on their captives 'the perps.'
It must be pointed out that the females attending the Flower
Revolution were just as anxious to find a new way to live, without being
dominated by the matriarchy, nor by the patriarchy; in any case, not
living off the ruins of the male. They fought for and won the right to
follow their own bliss (As Campbell would put it), picked their own tools
of art, literature, science and religion and have become a gender apart,
struggling as hard againest the limitations set by their middle class
matriarchy as againest the so called patriarchy.
The main adversary for the rebellious female seeking to find her
own creative self, turned out to be - not their fathers - but their
mothers. These young women opting for freedom from the binds of middle
class matronry, taking up the tools of academia, of art and medicine,
found support among their own kind, did their best to avoid the strictures
of traditional motherhood, bringing up children by themselves, or with
another woman, sometimes traveling with the child about the world to visit
the ashrams of saints and the great museums and ruins of ancient cultures.
True the young boy had to find his manhood in struggling with the mother's
lovers and friends who came and went; far from a perfect solution but free
of the hysterical demands of the nuclear family turned viciously upon
itself, creating an atmosphere poisoned with guilt and constant
It is not easy for either the male or female to fight the cultural
possessive bonds of family and relationship in order to attain some degree
of personal independence. . . a sense of self. The independent female
devised imaginative ways to have her cake and eat it too, as did the male.
New combinations of family units were tried with greater and lesser
success. The most successful involved families getting out from the city,
choosing a life
closer to the ways of nature where they could take out their frustrations
by struggling againest the elements and growing their own healthy food,
living in the community
of like minded individuals, or starting small businesses in common;
in any case, working together. in an extended family arrangement.
Nick Nickolds, 2004